Jolt Country

So documentaries on sex, books on sex, shows about sex all interesting topics. Real life sex, always interesting if not enjoyable (though fortunately these days it's almost always enjoyable). Yet not ONE thread about sex or relationships in HOW long? Some one offer something up here....

I have some sex penciled in for next week? I suspect a whirlpool bath will be involved.

My schedule for sex has switched from the vague "before 10 pm" to "around 4 am" because either myself or Haptic are at least half awake by then.

I don't know... Too much makes me feel cloudy and there doesn't appear to be a threshold for too little (I feel more edgy and energetic when I haven't "done the deed" for a few days to two or three weeks).

Oh right.. TMI

The saying around here was always, "the people that talk about it the most are doing it the least."

That being said, I've now officially been married half of my life. If anyone wants to set aside hours, days, or weeks to talk about sex, my calendar's wide open.

yesterday= win!
today = failed attempt. While the older children were not home, the youngest decided that he didn't want to nap during his normal time and instead whined loudly when we made an attempt to get some naked fun to ourselves. HATE when that happens. Alas, alack!

Also- does anyone else have/have had issues withe partners who don't even want to acknowledge sexual attraction to other people? This personally pisses me off and gives me the impression that there is something to hide...

My current SO has absolutely no issues with me watching porn (much to my own chagrin) and doesn't really care if I catch an eye full of another girl.

The only step that would upset her would be moving into more of an open relationship, but more due to her own insecurity than the thought that I was screwing around with another woman.

Relationships are weird.

I'm happy with my husband. Yeah, there's the occasional flirt or eyeful with someone else, but no wandering. (Other than the drunken Halloween make out and grabsies with some female friends when he and I first got together which he was present for).
MY issues; primarily dishonesty. I have been in enough relationships where there have been outright lies and cheating that my trust is... limited. Most of my exes and current have lied about porn viewing. Many have lied about not being with other people. *shrug*

On an added note- glad he got a vasectomy. Simplifies things. =)

loafergirl wrote:(Other than the drunken Halloween make out and grabsies with some female friends when he and I first got together which he was present for).

Wait... Was it you or your husband who was doing the grabbies with female friends?

loafergirl wrote:MY issues; primarily dishonesty. I have been in enough relationships where there have been outright lies and cheating that my trust is... limited. Most of my exes and current have lied about porn viewing. Many have lied about not being with other people. *shrug*

I've come to appreciate the fact my SO doesn't care if I watch porn or not (even going so far as to ask me about laundry while I'm in the middle of something) as my last few girlfriends used to as either an excuse to jump right into it with me or referred to it as proof that we weren't as close as we should be.

Guess lying about self pleasure would be an indicator that lying about sex / attraction in a more general way is fine. But it is all about context: I'd rather explore an open relationship and do anything in the open, than hide it and feel ashamed.

loafergirl wrote:On an added note- glad he got a vasectomy. Simplifies things. =)

Guess after six children he has "sown his seed" enough. I'm still debating whether I want to have one myself, but its less about fathering more children as just an added prevention method (and if put to the gun, I'd adopt before conceiving).

I am wacking my bag to this thread.

NO.. we have 4, household of 6. Only 1 is his biologically, my stepson is not. 2 are mine from a previous relationship.

I've had my share of dishonesty in the past. Oh well... it is what it is.

A/S/L?

82/T/Iceland

UPDATE: Had that sex I mentioned. It was alright.

loafergirl wrote:NO.. we have 4, household of 6. Only 1 is his biologically, my stepson is not. 2 are mine from a previous relationship.

I've had my share of dishonesty in the past. Oh well... it is what it is.

It's the dishonesty, the betrayal that is so corrosive. I would argue that if it were real, in the case of what happened in The Big Chill where Sarah asks her husband and gives him permission to get Meg pregnant, this is not going to affect their marriage because they were open about it (plus it was Sarah's idea.) Apparently the fact Sarah was carrying on with Alex on an occasional basis and Harold knew about it didn't cause them a problem either.

I knew how my girlfriend felt about a guy she used to know but was never with. I explicitly gave her a pass, for him only, I said that if it happened that she slipped with him I wouldn't have a problem. She never did, but it eliminated the possibility of it being an issue between us.

The Happiness Engine wrote:UPDATE: Had that sex I mentioned. It was alright.

Now is that "alright" like "eh, okay" or "alright" like "Giggity, giggity, aaaaalright"?

loafergirl wrote:NO.. we have 4, household of 6. Only 1 is his biologically, my stepson is not. 2 are mine from a previous relationship.

I've had my share of dishonesty in the past. Oh well... it is what it is.

Sorry for the confusion, but yes that is still quite a full house. And oddly enough, my girlfriends have always been freaky enough that honestly wasn't an issue as we were essentially screwing up together (except for my current, but that is another story).

You caught me, I was just trying to look cool. My GIRLFRIEND (she's from another school, you wouldn't know her) has been in town for a week.[/i]