by Vitriola » Mon Feb 04, 2008 7:13 pm
Do I need to go into this?
How many of you guys have ever said "the mother is coming to town, we're going out', 'the truck isn't working today', 'the boss is an asshole'. No, it's always MY. My mother, boss, car.
Because it's an age-old stereotype that men are ball-and-chained, unreasonably conscripted to 'the woman'. What is implied but not necessarily observed is the sly eye-roll, throw-up-hands, you-know-how-it-is way that woman are referred to among guys. Because they're all the same - the ball-busting, naggy whiners that media has portrayed women for decades. (Another thread is how it's ok to man-bash lately, and I have a problem with that, too). And sure, yeah, we deserve this in a way. Or have, as far as stereotypes go. But, no. We're not really that way. We're not a 'the'. We're 'my', or else we just have a name.
'Julie wants me to go shopping for groceries with her tonight.' It's fair. When one says, upon being asked if the guy can go out for a beer tonight, 'oh no, the woman needs me to SHOP with her', that's insulting and horrible. But implied with a 'the'. Seriously, modern woman = "go out for a beer, we can shop later". You're not all chained cuckholds that need sympathy. She has a name. Use it. If you're with her, she's probably cool, and if she isn't, dump her.
'The' is a way of distancing oneself from a commitment or relationship (to a woman, as it isn't used for other things). And this is only done with your wives and girlfriends. It's unconscious, but not so deep that it can't be discovered with a little introspection.
Do I need to go into this?
How many of you guys have ever said "the mother is coming to town, we're going out', 'the truck isn't working today', 'the boss is an asshole'. No, it's always MY. My mother, boss, car.
Because it's an age-old stereotype that men are ball-and-chained, unreasonably conscripted to 'the woman'. What is implied but not necessarily observed is the sly eye-roll, throw-up-hands, you-know-how-it-is way that woman are referred to among guys. Because they're all the same - the ball-busting, naggy whiners that media has portrayed women for decades. (Another thread is how it's ok to man-bash lately, and I have a problem with that, too). And sure, yeah, we deserve this in a way. Or have, as far as stereotypes go. But, no. We're not really that way. We're not a 'the'. We're 'my', or else we just have a name.
'Julie wants me to go shopping for groceries with her tonight.' It's fair. When one says, upon being asked if the guy can go out for a beer tonight, 'oh no, the woman needs me to SHOP with her', that's insulting and horrible. But implied with a 'the'. Seriously, modern woman = "go out for a beer, we can shop later". You're not all chained cuckholds that need sympathy. She has a name. Use it. If you're with her, she's probably cool, and if she isn't, dump her.
'The' is a way of distancing oneself from a commitment or relationship (to a woman, as it isn't used for other things). And this is only done with your wives and girlfriends. It's unconscious, but not so deep that it can't be discovered with a little introspection.